Curly Queen Transition: 1 Month Recap

I’m officially into my second month on my natural hair journey and I am in L.O.V.E. Not only or exactly with my hair but with my decision to go natural. Or, should I say as I have seen, to RETURN to natural. This journey isn’t just about your hairstyle. It’s about so so so much more. I feel like the movement resonates so wonderfully with what This Brown Queen stands for. I’m only a month in and although I am still learning and growing tremendously I am in awe of all the knowledge I’ve gained thus far. AND I’ve discovered so many beautiful natural bloggers and vloggers along the way. All so truly inspiring and beautiful in their own ways and I can only hope to meet some of these Queens one day or connect across this blogosphere :). Ok so before I get any more emotional than I already did, let’s move along to the recap!

What I’m Doing:

My Regimen is simple. I’ve learned years ago that with my hair, low manipulation is key. It doesn’t really like too much going on all day everyday so I don’t do too much. I wash with a low sulfate shampoo once a week. I also condition, detangle, and deep condition once a week as well. Once a month I do a protein treatment. I don’t use any heat. At all at all. To dry my hair I generally use the bun method and allow a full 24 hours to completely dry before styling. To maintain moisture during the week, I simply use water and an oil. Sometimes I’ll use a leave in depending upon the style and state.

What I’m Using:

Tresemme Naturals Vibrantly Smooth with Coconut Oil and Jojoba Extracts Shampoo and Conditioner. Use theses once a week as my low sulfate shampoo and regular conditioner. Also if I need to do a mid week cowash I use this conditioner as well. Pantene Truly Natural Deep Conditioner as my weekly deep conditioner mixed with EVOO. Cantu Shea Butter Leave In Repairing Conditioner as my leave in. African Royale Hot Six Oil as my sealant. Cantu Shea Butter Coconut Curling Cream and Eco Styler gel as my stylers. Cantu Shea Butter Daily Oil Moisturizer as a moisturizer if/when needed. EVOO & Honey as a prepoo.

My Styles:

Two strand twist is still my go to. I just love the way these look. A very pretty natural style that I feel works very well for transitioning hair. I do have a love/hate relationship with them lately as all this good hair business has my edges (that haul azzed outta here after I had King Jr) growing back and sometimes they can get out of of control. I LOVE twist outs, but I don’t always get them perfect. When they’re right, they’re right. And when they’re wrong -_-…….I would love to start experimenting more with styles but until I get these ends under control, I’m limited :(. And of course there is always my signature bun. Which is looking much fuller and healthier. Go me!

My husband has finally seen it in person. Still in love with it! However, explaining to him the upkeep has been…difficult. He doesn’t get it!

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This Brown Queen

Twist Out Success!

Finally Queens! I did it! I am too hype. It’s crazy. I have done twist out after twist out. Flat twist, two strand twist, chunky twist ALL to no avail! I was getting frustrated. Like for real. Wth was I doing wrong?!? Then I figured it out. If it is one thing I am learning on this natural hair journey is: what works for her…might not work for you. You can watch one hundred thousand billion Youtube videos, but that doesn’t mean what they are doing will work for you. They are a guide. Not a must do manual. I get that now.

Ok so let me explain natural queens what was happening to my twist outs… They just weren’t. I know. That sentence don’t make any type of sense but I’m for real. They just weren’t twist outs. I mean, yea, my hair was in some type of twist…overnight…then the next morning taken out. But it wasn’t no twist out. I think a combination of things were occurring.

One, my ends were HORRIFIC. I mean like for real. They were all over the place. I browsed tons of blogs…and videos…and google images (have you ever google imaged a split end? Creepy pictures…I don’t like them) on how to spot split ends. And even still, I don’t really know how to spot them, I don’t know if I have them, but I will tell you this…my ends just weren’t right. They ain’t look right, feel right, and they damn sure ain’t act right! Two, my hair is thin, straight, and super relaxed. So…if you combine these things you have incredibly resistant hair trying to hold a curl. It just was NOT happening. My fake twist outs were coming out like some half hearted excuse of a loose wave. There was just no curl. To make matters worse my hair was so thin and ends so raggedy you could just “see through” the fake curls. A Mess.

I don’t know what made me do it but while attempting my thousandth (okay not literally but that’s how I feel) twist out, I decided to trim my ends. And not those little baby trims I’ve been doing. I mean really trim them. Each section that I twisted, I cut them. Where the hair got raggedy, I cut it off! I could have done even more than I did but baby steps queens. Baby steps. I also decided that the two curl creams I had tried just weren’t it. I love the way my Cantu Coconut Curling Cream smells and feels. I mean its heavenly, but it just is not working for me yet…I say yet because I have hope that it will. I needed something more. I decided to use my eco styler gel in addition to the cream. Lastly, I used those pink perm/wave rods on the ends of each twist.

I DID IT. #Boom I love mahhhh twist outttt :-*

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This Brown Queen

How My Husband Feels…

…about my natural hair! Me and a natural friend of mine were lounging around talking about all things Natural Hair. We were comparing types, products, going through our journey, our feelings, thoughts. It’s really great to have friends that are going through the same journey as you! We’re both at different stages in our journey and our lives so it was interesting to have this Natural discussion :). I’ve known this girl going on a decade and her going natural was a complete surprise to me. She is the one who taught me how do my own weaves in college! She has always told me how much she loves her weave…And now she’s natural!?! I am so amazed and proud of her. She’s a bit farther in her journey than I and she’s a single independent Queen! One of the things that came up of course was learning how to embrace our hair in its natural state. She made a comment when I said her fro was cute that went something like, her biggest obstacle was learning that her hair WAS cute. Getting out of the mindset that long and straight is not the end all be all to be beautiful is tough when you’ve been accustomed to this way of thinking for so long. I understood where she was coming from as I’m sure many of us that decide to go natural experience this in the beginning. She then continued to say that for me, it was different, I didn’t have to worry about being cute because I was married, she had to find someone who would embrace her natural hair in a society where the majority of us brown queens have weaves down our backs. I kindly told my sister that NOOOO it was harder for me because my husband met the relaxed Queen. The one who paid hundreds tor “Remi”, and hundreds to get that remi sew-in. The one who had hair down past my bra strap. That’s the Queen he married! So for me to go natural was scary because…what if my husband DIDN’T like it. What then? Do I stop? Do I tell him get over it?

Thankfully that is NOT how my husband feels 🙂 🙂 :). He’s yet to see it in person but we skype everyday and of course there’s Instagram ;). To put it simply he LOVESSS it. Yesterday during our daily skype session we were chatting about the kids and his tour coming to an end when he interrupted me midsentence to tell me how much he is loving my natural hair. He said it’s gorgeous and he only wishes I would have had the confidence to do it while he was home. He then did a little dance singing about how much he loves his natural queen. Then did a victory dance about never having to spend money on weave again and proclaimed that he never ever wanted to see me in a weave or relaxer again. Gggoosshhh do I love that man <3! He is so supportive. And honestly I think he’d support whatever decision I made with that same level of enthusiasm because that’s just the kind of guy he is :)….nevertheless I can still be elated that he is supporting this journey of mine!

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This Brown Queen

Curly Haul!!!

This is going to be a problem. I’m in love with natural products already! This is bad! I’m already on a makeup budget but now I have to create a hair budget. Or else I will lose it all Queens ;).

This is a mini haul of natural hair products I picked up to help with my beginning journey. I’m still in the very early stages of transitioning and actually getting to know my hair so I mean, it’s only right I go through a couple products. I’m learning my hair right? That’s my reasoning and I’m sticking to it! I actually did good though because I only bought what I actually needed and I am happy! I didn’t even leave with that sad “Yup, did it again feeling.” I love non guilty product indulging!!

My goodies, my goodies, my goodies:

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1. Tresemme Naturals Vibrantly Smooth Shampoo (Low Sulfates) with Coconut Oil and Jojoba Extract. I was looking for a mild shampoo and I’ve heard good things about the Tresemme Naturals line. Most people speak about their Nourishing Moisture products but I wanted to give this a try. It says it helps with frizz…and I need help with frizz!

2. Tresemme Naturals Vibrantly Smooth Conditioner with Coconut Oil and Jojoba Extract. I needed a conditioner other than my deep conditioner. I thought about the Aussie Moist but decided to go with this…it was on sale if I bought the shampoo and I did.

3. Jamaican Black Castor OIl. Don’t really know what I’m going to do with this. I don’t really have any intentions on using it right now. I’ve heard nothing but good things about it though since transitioning and before! I’ve seen a lot of my favorite bloggers using it for some type of challenge. I’ll do more research and see how I want to incorporate this.

4. Cantu Shea Butter Coconut Curling Cream. I had the Motions Define My Curl Cream but I didn’t like it. Okay I can’t say that because I only used it once but I just did not like the consistency. It was a cream but was wasn’t creamy. I like my other Cantu products and the reviews on this were awesome so we’ll see!

5. Eco Styler Gel. Everyone needs a styling gel. I like it! Pretty much cut and dry for me there.

6. African Royale Hot Six Oil. I used to use this oil a few years ago when I was relaxed. I loved it. Don’t know what made me stop using it but I was not feeling my Olive Oil that I had. I have straight EVOO but I wanted some kind of oil blend and so I got this again. Still love it!

I have tried some of these, but I’ll have reviews coming in the future. I want to really get a feel of how I like the product.

I LOVE HAULS!!!

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This Brown Queen

My Curly Queen Transition: Week 2

Better!!! That’s all I have to say. I could really end the post here but what fun would that be?! So instead I’m going to tell you Queens all about my 2nd week of transitioning. I’ll break it down in sections because if I don’t, this will become one long rambling mess and no one needs that 😉

Products I used:

1.) Pantene Truly Natural Co-Wash

2.) Cantu Shea Butter Leave-In Repair Cream

3.) African Pride Olive Miracle Growth Oil.

What I did:

On wash day I didn’t use a shampoo. I decided to cowash and used the Pantene Truly Natural Co-Wash. I detangled with that in my hair and rinsed completely out. I didn’t use another conditioner…I think that was a bad idea :-/. I then used the Cantu Shea Butter Leave in. I am not using heat right now so I did my bun method to stretch and dry. On day 1 I wore my bun. On day 2 I did my epic failed flat twist. On day 3 I did two strand twists. I was pleasantly surprised with how it turned out. I liked it so much that I actually took it out and did it “the right way”. I hate to admit this but I half-axxed my first attempt. But I liked the results so much that I did them over and wore them the remainder of the week. LOVED THEM! I think it’s safe to say that I’ve found my go to transitioning style for now.

How I did my twists:

I sectioned my hair in 6…yes 6 sections. My hair is one hundred thousand million different textures and lengths right now. I sectioned my hair based on that and the way that I wanted my twists to lay. In each section I would part my hair, dampen that parted section, apply my cantu leave in, seal with the african pride olive oil, do a few twists for each parted section, and move on. After I was done I used those soft twist rollers on the ends to help keep them in and make sure they laid right. I used about 6.

My thoughts:

I am loving my two strand twists. They take forever to do but once done I’m in love! I don’t wear them down yet, they have to be styled, pinned up or back, bunned etc. My hair is thin right now due to losing hair after my prince and I still have a head full of super crazy relaxed hair. I like my cantu leave in so that will remain in my regimen for now. I have no desire to use the Pantene Co-Wash again.

What I Need:

1.) A mild shampoo. I don’t think I’m a fan of cowashing. I won’t rule it out as I know it is something my natural queens live by. At this time though I think on a weekly basis I need to shampoo. If I cowash I would only prefer to do midweek or between washes.

2.) A conditioner. I only have the Pantene Deep Conditioner but I need a conditioner to use regularly, after shampoo washes, for cowashes, or just as an added conditioner.

3.) A sealing oil. I’m not really a fan of the African Pride. I don’t hate it…I’m just sure there is another oil I’d like better.

4.) A styling gel. I don’t think wash n go’s are in my immediate future but I would like to have one on hand.

I’m feeling more comfortable. I’m still embracing the fact that I’m awesome at finding out what my hair doesn’t like ;).

The journey continues…

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This Brown Queen