Happy Sunday Queens! ❤
Peace, Love, & Blessings
Today’s Spiritual Sunday is a scripture I read often. Throughout life there are people who are just out to do you no good. You may not know why, you may not understand. You don’t deserve it. It is unwarranted. But it is what is. Our basic instinct is always to react in the same fashion. You do me wrong, I’ma do you wrong. Trust me. I know these feelings ALL. TOO. WELL. But, hard as it may be. That’s not the way we should respond.
You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? And if you greet your brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the tax collectors do so? Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect. ~Matthew 5:43-48
It’s hard. I know. This is a struggle I deal with constantly. I posted this for you AND me. Because Lord knows I need the strength!
Some time ago, I was going through a rough patch in my life. Nothing my God couldn’t handle but I was definitely having a hard time with a few things. This IS life afterall. It comes with the package. One particularly rough night I found myself upset and not understanding why ME, this child of God, was going through these trials when it seemed like everyone else was experiencing nothing but joy. I didn’t understand why it seemed like my prayers went unanswered or why it felt I was being punished. I was frustrated and defeated. These thoughts plagued my mind daily. Until one day, God spoke to me and reminded me of a message I received years ago at church one day.
The thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy. You do not steal what is not valuable. You can not kill something that is not alive. You only destroy that of which is a threat to you.
These “attacks” that were occurring in my life were in fact trials and tribulations of life. A BEAUTIFUL LIFE. A life of value. A life worth living. A LIFE that matters! Of course the enemy would attack that type of threat! Times get hard. And hard times pass. As they always have. Bumps, obstacles, difficult times are all signs that you are living the life meant to be lived. Because I mean…if you don’t experience difficulty…you aren’t experiencing life.
Peace, Love, & Blessings
Founder & Editor of This Brown Queen
I was 21 years old when I became pregnant with my first prince. A younger me would look back and say that was one the most difficult times of my young life so far. But a wiser more mature me will say that rough, though it was, it was still one of my greatest triumphs. I was 21. Unwed. Barely halfway through college. Still dependent on my parents. Faced with the uncertain future of single motherhood. I had become the statistic that I fought (not hard enough) against becoming. Tough, Hard, Difficult are all words to describe a time where I honestly didn’t know if I would make it. But I did. What got me through, besides my parents and my unborn son, was MY GOD. During those days of wondering, worrying, anxiously awaiting this new chapter of my life, a scripture from the Book of Matthew was my salvation. Don’t worry about your life…It was everything I needed to flourish during my storm.
“Therefore I say to you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or what you will drink; nor what you will put on. Is not life more than food and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather in barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they? Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?
“So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like on of these. Now if God so clothes the grass of field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?
” Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all theses things. But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all theses things shall be added to you.
“Therefore, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.
Peace, Love, & Blessings
Founder & Editor of This Brown Queen
“…from him much will be required; and to whom much has been committed, of him they will ask the more.” ~ Luke 12:48
I don’t really know why I chose this scripture for this post. It just kind of resonated with me. Like many Queens, THIS brown queen does it all. And no, I’m not boasting or bragging. Don’t you know that I would LOVE an assistant, a mother’s helper, a clone, ANYTHING to help me with my day to day tasks?! I’m sure we all do! But, I don’t have those things. It’s just me (and the Mr.) So I gotta do it all. There’s motherhood and marriage. Then there’s my 9 – 5 and entrepreneur aspirations. That alone is enough to fill 24 hours in a instant. Seriously. When 8 hours is supposed to be devoted to sleeping and 8 hours is spent bringing home the bacon, you’re only left with 8 hours to live! Really?? Whose idea was that? So in 8 hours I must raise my children, maintain my home, nurture my marriage, and grind to achieve my dream of being an entrepreneur.
So what happens? I’m sure ya’ll know the answer to this! Things get crazy. I mean real crazy. And 8 hours of sleep? What is that? Somebody let King Jr. know about this because clearly he doesn’t care. Like at all, about no 8 hours of sleep ;). Life becomes a constant flow of this and that. Days pass by faster than they feel. And nights feel nonexistent. It’s easy to get caught up in it all and feel overwhelmed. I know ALL about that. I can write a book about it. No literally I could.
Mostly, I try to maintain balance. Multitasking is my middle name, but I still leave certain things for certain times as it should be. This is key to my sanity. When it’s family time. It’s family time. When it’s time to work I’m in my zone. And I strive to do my best at my job just as I would in any other aspect of my life. Certainly most times you can find me iPhone in hand, baby on hip, two kids in tow. And I’d have it no other way. But BALANCE is key. When the time calls to put down the iPhone and eat dinner (which we do every night as a family!) than that is what must be done.
My point to this entire post which may seem like random ramblings is to say…I was blessed with my husband and my children. With my job and my talents. With my dreams and my goals. So if that means I have work a little harder in life than the next person so be it. I was given these blessings so it’s only right I’m expected to make the very most of this life!
Peace, Love, & Blessings.
This Brown Queen
Now faith is the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen. ~ Hebrews 11:1
Recently, I’ve been going through a period in life where things are REALLY uncertain. Now, I know if I’m being true to myself…EVERYTHING in life is uncertain. Nothing is guaranteed. But there is a certain unsettling feeling of uncertainty that comes over you when things shift in your life. Especially when they shift unexpectedly, dramatically, and abruptly. With things happening in my life like career changes for my husband, the new business I am trying to start for myself, and finding my way in the blogging world…I’ve been experiencing an unsettling feeling. A shakey feeling. A feeling of instability. And I don’t like it.
I look at my business plans and think, can I really be successful? I look at my husband and I have no idea where his career will turn from here. I blog, I love it, but I don’t really know what I’m doing!
Immediately Jesus reached out his hand and caught him. “You of little faith,” he said, “why did you doubt?” ~ Matthew 14:31
Those feelings that I have are doubt. Doubting whether I have what it takes to be a successful entrepreneur. Doubting whether I’m doing the “right thing” when it comes to blogging. Doubting whether the direction my husband decides to take in his career will make him happy. It’s all DOUBT. And doubt is poisonous. Because once those doubtful thoughts enter your mind, it’s hard to shake them!
We live by faith, not by sight. ~ 2 Corinthians 5:7
My husband is a faithful man. When troubling times come and I feel like the walls are crumbling in, he’s as calm as if everything we’re experiencing is perfectly normal. Like everything is happening just as it should. Living by the phrase “God has me”. I thank God for him everyday. He helps me to break out of that doubtful thinking. A glass half full kinda guy. The end of one thing is just the beginning of an even greater next thing! God has me. In my career, my family, my life. HE has me.
Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. ~ Proverbs 3:5
I’ve been trying to change my thinking. Instead of IF, I’m saying WHEN. Because I KNOW there is something greater ahead for me. Us. Faith is not just saying those things. It’s a truly, 100%, undeniable, unwavering, belief that I WILL MAKE IT. Period.
And He said to them, “Because of the littleness of your faith; for truly I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you shall say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it shall move; and nothing shall be impossible to you. ~ Matthew 17.:20
So WHEN I look back on this. You know, WHEN I made it. I’ll simply say…
I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. ~ 2 Timothy 4:7
This Brown Queen